Be kind to yourself

The path to self realisation is never ending and we all step along it, treading in the footsteps of those who have passed this way before and leaving footprints for others to follow. Of the many lessons that we need to learn is to be kind to ourselves or, as my lovely wife, Helen, puts it "Do for yourself what you would do for others"

This is her twist of "Do to others as you would wish them to do to you". Her point is that whilst many of us take great care to encourage and support other people despite their perception of non-achievement, we do not forgive our own perceived failings as willingly. So, stop for a moment and love yourself. And if there's something about yourself that you really can't love, then change it! But first be sure that it really needs a change rather than an acceptance by yourself.

We are currently both going through a stage of deep self examination and that was the first thing that came out of Helen's inward perception. We talk a lot to each other (those of you who have read my blog will know that we choose not to have a television) and we put my tendency to panic on the table. I live with a fear that if I relax my guard, some catastrophy will take me completely unawares. Helen suggested that I spend some quality time with little Derek (5, 6 or 7 year old me). Perhaps something happened to him that he hadn't seen coming but that he felt at the time destroyed his life. Using my Mind Power techniques I've been doing just that and I found it. It was something that I knew had happened, but that I had "coped with" at the time rather than allowing it to overwhelm me as perhaps would have been more natural. I re-lived it, cried over it and was able to reassure him that he had nothing to fear. After all, I knew what was in store for him in his life and it really was going to be a good one.

I share this with you in the hope that you will forgive yourself whatever there is to forgive, love yourself as you are and not as you feel you should be and keep striving for inner peace. Allow others their weaknesses - they are also carrying baggage. Know that the path that you are walking is endless and it is the journey that brings its own reward.

"You can approach the light, but you can never touch the light" (this quote is from "Light on the Path").


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